[Today, our oldest granddaughter gets marrie=
d. Over the past 5 decades I have performed hundreds of weddings. Today, he=
r G’ma and I are privileged to just sit and watch, smiling and rejoic=
ing That’s the way it should be. Her dad has the poignant joy o=
f performing this sacred ceremony. Thought of the kind and pointed words of=
W.A. Peterson in “The Art of Marriage”. Important to remember =
for the new couple. Important for all of us ‘old’ married coupl=
es to remember.]
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Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage m=
ust be created.
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sp;
In marriage the little thi=
ngs are the big things:
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>It is never being too old to hold hands.
>It is r=
emembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
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p;
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>It is never going to sleep angry.
>It is at no time takin=
g the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, i=
t should continue through the years.
>It is having a mutual s=
ense of values and common objectives.
>It is standing togethe=
r facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole f=
amily.
>It is doing things for each other, not in the attitud=
e of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
>It is spea=
king words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
>It is not looking for perfection in each other.
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gt;It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding, and a sense of h=
umour.
>It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.=
>It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old=
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>It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
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>It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is=
equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal.
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p;
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>It is not only marrying the right partner; it is being the right partne=
r.
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Dr Bob Griffin
[email protected] =
www.grif.net
"Jesus Knows Me, T=
his I Love!"